Have a blessed New Year :)
Saturday, January 14, 2017
Monday, December 29, 2014
Thursday, October 9, 2014
Sunday, June 8, 2014
Dad who has gone .
Being as a daughter and a last child in the family, I do not show much reaction against anything that happen. I lost my my dad when I was 17 years old which made him 49 years old in the year of 2014.
Many girl friends of mine says to me 'My dad is my bestfriend! / My dad is my .... etc !'
But mine was totally different. I never spend time talking to my dad. I find it really awkward talking to him. There's even days we dont even meet or talk to each other. I always keep away. But many times too did my mind wonder 'Why didnt I had a dad like my friends too?' 'Why wasn't my dad cool like theirs?'. Well, many questions was in my head but i've never wondered the answers out till today.
I've never cried when i loss my grandma. Just the same way, i thought i wouldnt shed any of my tears when i lose my dad.. Yaa ! cause i wasnt close to him.. duhh ... but it wasn't like what i thought. At the moment i stepped into the hospital, my brother came up to me saying 'we've just loss our dad', he was crying horribly, after hearing that, i dropped to my knees and cried alot.. I've never said a single words to anybody till today, but from the hospital till they put him into the grave, i was hoping deep down in my heart that he will wake up and give a surprise.. Sadly nothing like that happen.
Not to deny, till today i still miss my dad, wishing and hoping he was here till today. I didnt expect him to begone very early before me. I dont have the best relatives !
Many girl friends of mine says to me 'My dad is my bestfriend! / My dad is my .... etc !'
But mine was totally different. I never spend time talking to my dad. I find it really awkward talking to him. There's even days we dont even meet or talk to each other. I always keep away. But many times too did my mind wonder 'Why didnt I had a dad like my friends too?' 'Why wasn't my dad cool like theirs?'. Well, many questions was in my head but i've never wondered the answers out till today.
I've never cried when i loss my grandma. Just the same way, i thought i wouldnt shed any of my tears when i lose my dad.. Yaa ! cause i wasnt close to him.. duhh ... but it wasn't like what i thought. At the moment i stepped into the hospital, my brother came up to me saying 'we've just loss our dad', he was crying horribly, after hearing that, i dropped to my knees and cried alot.. I've never said a single words to anybody till today, but from the hospital till they put him into the grave, i was hoping deep down in my heart that he will wake up and give a surprise.. Sadly nothing like that happen.
Not to deny, till today i still miss my dad, wishing and hoping he was here till today. I didnt expect him to begone very early before me. I dont have the best relatives !
Sunday, January 5, 2014
'I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME'.
What does 'all things' mean?
It means the will of God in your life.
Philippians 4 : 13
2Corinthians 3 : 5&6
John 15 : 4 &5
To do all things, the word 'CAN'T' has to be taken out of our vocabulary because:
-It destroys motivation
-It shifts responsibility
-It denies reality
E.g.:
-For a many times we say 'I CAN'T forgive that person', 'I CAN'T change', 'I CAN'T lose weight', 'I CAN'T be nice to the person after what he/she had done' and etc...
As we say CAN'T, we're really stating it. Why don't change it to CAN?
It would bring lots of changes to you.
Can you really do ''All Things'' ?
1. You can if you want to
-Principle of Personal Desire
2.You can if God wants you to
-Principle of Divine Direction
Through Christ :
- You can face everything He wants you to face.
- You can fight every battle He wants you to fight.
- You can obey every command.
- You can endure every trial.
3. You can if you rely on Jesus Christ
-Principal of Divine Enablement
4. You can if you start today and dont look back
-Principal of Personal Choice.
What does 'all things' mean?
It means the will of God in your life.
Philippians 4 : 13
2Corinthians 3 : 5&6
John 15 : 4 &5
To do all things, the word 'CAN'T' has to be taken out of our vocabulary because:
-It destroys motivation
-It shifts responsibility
-It denies reality
E.g.:
-For a many times we say 'I CAN'T forgive that person', 'I CAN'T change', 'I CAN'T lose weight', 'I CAN'T be nice to the person after what he/she had done' and etc...
As we say CAN'T, we're really stating it. Why don't change it to CAN?
It would bring lots of changes to you.
Can you really do ''All Things'' ?
1. You can if you want to
-Principle of Personal Desire
2.You can if God wants you to
-Principle of Divine Direction
Through Christ :
- You can face everything He wants you to face.
- You can fight every battle He wants you to fight.
- You can obey every command.
- You can endure every trial.
3. You can if you rely on Jesus Christ
-Principal of Divine Enablement
4. You can if you start today and dont look back
-Principal of Personal Choice.
Thursday, December 12, 2013
Friday, May 10, 2013
Being a young child, it's only once in a life time. You could never be nor react like a child as you was few years backs, it would just be wierd.. But what we have been thru during our young times, it's all memories that could bring those moments back by photos, postcards and videos..
Those are the precious moments we could have when we were young..
Everyone, you and me have our own memories that could not be forgotten at all..
Mine was just awesome.. in the sence i had lots of funs, happiness, love, cares and all I ever wanted.. :)
When I was young, everyone had time for each another, no one would be neglected.
Mine was just awesome.. in the sence i had lots of funs, happiness, love, cares and all I ever wanted.. :)
When I was young, everyone had time for each another, no one would be neglected.
During that time, friends was just for fun, you dont really need them as now.. but they do still leave memories in our lives. Those special moments, i have with my family.. Those moments when i was just so hyper and naugthy kid, everyone just had to be patience with me..
Although theres yet sad and hurting moments too.. Not everyone has happy moments during their childhood but you are still blessed to be happy now..
Im all blessed !! I had all i wanted to have when i was a child..
#cousins
#us with mum
#celebrating ma bday wid siblings
Although theres yet sad and hurting moments too.. Not everyone has happy moments during their childhood but you are still blessed to be happy now..
Im all blessed !! I had all i wanted to have when i was a child..
# when i was a baby
#small baby gal :)
#independent small gal
#happy #child #loves # moments
Thursday, April 25, 2013
Sunday, April 7, 2013
CHILD ABUSE
Many have wondered and even I have wondered 'Why Does Child Get Abused?'.Well the answer to it is..
Some people enter into parenthood with unrealistic expectations and they may be surprised at the amount of care and attention that infants and children need. This is particularly true of teen parents or immature adults. Parents also may become abusive if they are resentful of a child who is handicapped or difficult to handle because they requires more time and attention than they expected.
Moreover, parenting is stressful, parents without support from family and friends may be more likely to abuse their children. Some emergency shelters for abused children offer parents the option to drop off children for a while when they feel they can't cope with them.
Alcohol and drug abuse often lead to child abuse because these substances cause people to lose self-control. Parents who engage in substance abuse are almost three times more likely to abuse their children and four times more likely to neglect them. Children of single parent alcoholics or drug users are at even greater risk because there is no second parent to diffuse the situation or protect the child from abuse.
Parents who struggle with anxiety disorder, depression, bipolar disorder or other mental illnesses are less able to cope with the stresses of parenting and may be more likely to engage in child abuse. These disorders have difficulty caring for themselves and are even less able to care for others. They may be withdrawn and neglectful or quick to anger and more prone to physical violence.
Other then that, some working parents are too busy with their jobs till they have no time for their child. While their child needs attentions, cares and love from their parents. But when their busy parents is back home, they're tired and got no time for their kids. Parents tend to abuse their kid when they cant tolerate with their child's noise, and when they have no patience with their child.
Childrens are innocent, they need to be showed attentions, love and care not an attitude of an abussive. Why do we abuse them when they just want what they want? Children feels lonely when there's no one to listen to them or play with them. We as an adult, that have been thru childhood times should more understanding about what kids wants from us. Never tend to neglect them, cause some day you will feel the loss of their attendance.
Learn how to love children this day and STOP CHILD ABUSE!
What causes parent(s) to abuse their child?
A parent(s) childhood could cause an abussive action towards their child such in a way as adults who suffered abuse or ill treatment in childhood are more likely to abuse thier own children because the family model they grew up with is flawed. If parents grew up with harsh methods of discipline, they may be more prone to violence.
Some people enter into parenthood with unrealistic expectations and they may be surprised at the amount of care and attention that infants and children need. This is particularly true of teen parents or immature adults. Parents also may become abusive if they are resentful of a child who is handicapped or difficult to handle because they requires more time and attention than they expected.
Moreover, parenting is stressful, parents without support from family and friends may be more likely to abuse their children. Some emergency shelters for abused children offer parents the option to drop off children for a while when they feel they can't cope with them.
Alcohol and drug abuse often lead to child abuse because these substances cause people to lose self-control. Parents who engage in substance abuse are almost three times more likely to abuse their children and four times more likely to neglect them. Children of single parent alcoholics or drug users are at even greater risk because there is no second parent to diffuse the situation or protect the child from abuse.
Parents who struggle with anxiety disorder, depression, bipolar disorder or other mental illnesses are less able to cope with the stresses of parenting and may be more likely to engage in child abuse. These disorders have difficulty caring for themselves and are even less able to care for others. They may be withdrawn and neglectful or quick to anger and more prone to physical violence.
Other then that, some working parents are too busy with their jobs till they have no time for their child. While their child needs attentions, cares and love from their parents. But when their busy parents is back home, they're tired and got no time for their kids. Parents tend to abuse their kid when they cant tolerate with their child's noise, and when they have no patience with their child.
Childrens are innocent, they need to be showed attentions, love and care not an attitude of an abussive. Why do we abuse them when they just want what they want? Children feels lonely when there's no one to listen to them or play with them. We as an adult, that have been thru childhood times should more understanding about what kids wants from us. Never tend to neglect them, cause some day you will feel the loss of their attendance.
Learn how to love children this day and STOP CHILD ABUSE!
A lot of orphan childrens we meet within our environment. It maybe hard to believe but yet true that the life of an orphan child live is a BIG CHALLENGE.
We fail to know why it happens in such a way that after the parent(s) pass away, their child start testing the wrath of their death. Some how, there is also some irresponsible parent(s) who leaves their child at someone else doorstep, by the road side, in the dustbins or at the orphanage home. As these childrens has no parent(s), people remain to take care of this childrens, yet they again make them pass through regrettable experiences.
Most orphans would say that they want more than anything else to be rich and rise up in the world. So at least they could get away from being an orphan. Finding their birth parents is not that important to them though it may be a second choice. They know that their parents will never look for them.
Being an orphan is not the way you want to live. An orphan was always second class. Some people thought orphans were "no good." It was lonely, painful, fearful.And people take advantage of orphans.
These children suffers way a lot, to the extent of missing out schooling because no one is willing to pay their school dues. What is more hurting is that even the little the parents leave for their children, the relatives (uncles and aunties) start sharing them among themselves in equal ratios.
We fail to know why it happens in such a way that after the parent(s) pass away, their child start testing the wrath of their death. Some how, there is also some irresponsible parent(s) who leaves their child at someone else doorstep, by the road side, in the dustbins or at the orphanage home. As these childrens has no parent(s), people remain to take care of this childrens, yet they again make them pass through regrettable experiences.
Most orphans would say that they want more than anything else to be rich and rise up in the world. So at least they could get away from being an orphan. Finding their birth parents is not that important to them though it may be a second choice. They know that their parents will never look for them.
Being an orphan is not the way you want to live. An orphan was always second class. Some people thought orphans were "no good." It was lonely, painful, fearful.And people take advantage of orphans.
These children suffers way a lot, to the extent of missing out schooling because no one is willing to pay their school dues. What is more hurting is that even the little the parents leave for their children, the relatives (uncles and aunties) start sharing them among themselves in equal ratios.
Children are exposed to child labor; young girls are forced to get in marriages, taken like they are not humans, which make them live unhappy.
Some orphans has no shelter to live, with no choice they has to live by begging on the streets and sleeping on the streets. Some they dont even have food to eat with no choice they have to starve, they dont even have water to drink. Some they dont even have clothes to wear, they wear the same clothes everyday.
Orphans get jealous beause they dont have parent(s), who would be their most important people in life. They also dream about getting all the attention and getting spoiled by loving parents. But sadly they can't.. An orphan child also tend to seek sincere love and care from people around them yet some people looks down on them just because they're an orphan.
Well to the orphans, sponsors are a big encouragement. Orphans care about their sponsors and they love them because they are important to the orphans and because of them, the orphans could continue gaining knowlegde. But among themself, they show love and care for each another cause they know what is it to feel like to be an orphan.
Lastly but not the least, they go thru difficult times, difficulties in fighting over their emotions and every each day they has their own battles to fight for. We could not guess what kind of life they live till we go thru it and feel it, we dont know what they fight for, we dont know what they actually want. So why look down on this children? They are the strongest children ever. Never judge this orphan cause you will never know what they go thru.
Orphans get jealous beause they dont have parent(s), who would be their most important people in life. They also dream about getting all the attention and getting spoiled by loving parents. But sadly they can't.. An orphan child also tend to seek sincere love and care from people around them yet some people looks down on them just because they're an orphan.
Well to the orphans, sponsors are a big encouragement. Orphans care about their sponsors and they love them because they are important to the orphans and because of them, the orphans could continue gaining knowlegde. But among themself, they show love and care for each another cause they know what is it to feel like to be an orphan.
Lastly but not the least, they go thru difficult times, difficulties in fighting over their emotions and every each day they has their own battles to fight for. We could not guess what kind of life they live till we go thru it and feel it, we dont know what they fight for, we dont know what they actually want. So why look down on this children? They are the strongest children ever. Never judge this orphan cause you will never know what they go thru.
Orphans are loved by GOD. They were created by GOD to be cared and loved by the people around them. And who ever helps the orphans will be bless thousand folds in return. So, let's never look down on this childrens and lets shower them with our love and kindness.
Written By Lydia Raj (myself)
Ideas From Myself And Also Some Websites.
Written By Lydia Raj (myself)
Ideas From Myself And Also Some Websites.
Saturday, February 19, 2011
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